Comments on: The Art of the Ask http://www.suzemuse.com/2009/10/the-art-of-the-ask/ Wed, 10 Mar 2010 09:56:48 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: David Carroll http://www.suzemuse.com/2009/10/the-art-of-the-ask/comment-page-1/#comment-1006 David Carroll Sun, 11 Oct 2009 15:50:29 +0000 http://www.suzemuse.ca/?p=1839#comment-1006 “I wanna go to Shmoozefest, Suze!” Great post Sue. It always pays to be empathetic, and strike a fair bargain when asking for things. It is also good advice to allow people to get acquainted (or re-acquainted) with you before moving forward. It is easy to forget these little social rules that most people learn in kindergarten as we get older. I have found social media to be an excellent way to initially connect with strangers and old acquaintances alike, but I have had trouble getting some people to transition from Facebook & Twitter to phone calls and actual meetings. As you know each medium has it's strengths and weaknesses, and that is where your last bit of advice comes in: I will try explain to people why I want to switch from email or chat to phone or personal meetings. If they won't go for it then I will do my best in the medium(s) of their choice. I find the former is excellent for conveying facts, and maintaining an "audit trail". The latter is better for communicating nuance and tone, and if all parties stay on topic a phone call is much faster. Emoticons and texting just don't cut it for a Socratic dialogue. “I wanna go to Shmoozefest, Suze!”

Great post Sue. It always pays to be empathetic, and strike a fair bargain when asking for things. It is also good advice to allow people to get acquainted (or re-acquainted) with you before moving forward. It is easy to forget these little social rules that most people learn in kindergarten as we get older.

I have found social media to be an excellent way to initially connect with strangers and old acquaintances alike, but I have had trouble getting some people to transition from Facebook & Twitter to phone calls and actual meetings.

As you know each medium has it’s strengths and weaknesses, and that is where your last bit of advice comes in: I will try explain to people why I want to switch from email or chat to phone or personal meetings. If they won’t go for it then I will do my best in the medium(s) of their choice.

I find the former is excellent for conveying facts, and maintaining an “audit trail”. The latter is better for communicating nuance and tone, and if all parties stay on topic a phone call is much faster. Emoticons and texting just don’t cut it for a Socratic dialogue.

]]> By: Patti Church http://www.suzemuse.com/2009/10/the-art-of-the-ask/comment-page-1/#comment-1004 Patti Church Sun, 11 Oct 2009 02:17:49 +0000 http://www.suzemuse.ca/?p=1839#comment-1004 "I wanna go to Schmozefest, Suze" Sounds like fun! “I wanna go to Schmozefest, Suze” Sounds like fun!

]]> By: Greg Pang http://www.suzemuse.com/2009/10/the-art-of-the-ask/comment-page-1/#comment-1005 Greg Pang Sun, 11 Oct 2009 01:36:33 +0000 http://www.suzemuse.ca/?p=1839#comment-1005 Excellent post, Suze. Hope to meet you finally meet you one day (I'm @cyclaw).. perhaps at Schmoozefest. and... I wanna go to Shmoozefest, Suze! :) Excellent post, Suze. Hope to meet you finally meet you one day (I’m @cyclaw).. perhaps at Schmoozefest.

and… I wanna go to Shmoozefest, Suze! :)

]]> By: Patrick Denny http://www.suzemuse.com/2009/10/the-art-of-the-ask/comment-page-1/#comment-1012 Patrick Denny Sat, 10 Oct 2009 00:08:43 +0000 http://www.suzemuse.ca/?p=1839#comment-1012 Funny, when I was in the dating world, I always found the most successful "pick up line" was to walk up, introduce myself, mention that I thought they were interesting, thank them for their time and then leave. Usually the woman I had just talked to was intrigued enough to come find me and strike up a conversation. And if they weren't, well, at least I hadn't wasted both our time trying to impress them with cheesy lines. Sounds like you appreciate a similar approach for your "asks". Oh, and “I wanna go to Shmoozefest, Suze!” Funny,
when I was in the dating world, I always found the most successful “pick up line” was to walk up, introduce myself, mention that I thought they were interesting, thank them for their time and then leave.

Usually the woman I had just talked to was intrigued enough to come find me and strike up a conversation. And if they weren’t, well, at least I hadn’t wasted both our time trying to impress them with cheesy lines.

Sounds like you appreciate a similar approach for your “asks”.

Oh, and
“I wanna go to Shmoozefest, Suze!”

]]> By: Patti http://www.suzemuse.com/2009/10/the-art-of-the-ask/comment-page-1/#comment-1011 Patti Fri, 09 Oct 2009 22:37:36 +0000 http://www.suzemuse.ca/?p=1839#comment-1011 Great insight - thanks! I wanna go to Shmoozefest, Suze Great insight – thanks! I wanna go to Shmoozefest, Suze

]]> By: John Haydon http://www.suzemuse.com/2009/10/the-art-of-the-ask/comment-page-1/#comment-1010 John Haydon Fri, 09 Oct 2009 16:55:29 +0000 http://www.suzemuse.ca/?p=1839#comment-1010 I'd love to go - if they ever have a Shmoozefest in Boston... [rq=846419,0,blog][/rq]<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/Corporatedollarorg-ExceedYourOn-lineFundraisingGoalsWithSocialMediaMarketing/~3/rDVxXiS8gh0/" rel="nofollow">How to catapult your non-profit with Youtube</a> I’d love to go – if they ever have a Shmoozefest in Boston…
[rq=846419,0,blog][/rq]How to catapult your non-profit with Youtube

]]> By: Don http://www.suzemuse.com/2009/10/the-art-of-the-ask/comment-page-1/#comment-1001 Don Fri, 09 Oct 2009 16:52:25 +0000 http://www.suzemuse.ca/?p=1839#comment-1001 Kudos to you Sue for contributing so much to our community. I always knew you were busy, but didn't know how many project you had ongoing! Wow! Anyhow, I would like to enter for the draw so "I wanna go to Schmoozefest, Suze!" :) Kudos to you Sue for contributing so much to our community. I always knew you were busy, but didn’t know how many project you had ongoing!

Wow!

Anyhow, I would like to enter for the draw so “I wanna go to Schmoozefest, Suze!”
:)

]]> By: John James http://www.suzemuse.com/2009/10/the-art-of-the-ask/comment-page-1/#comment-1002 John James Fri, 09 Oct 2009 15:12:13 +0000 http://www.suzemuse.ca/?p=1839#comment-1002 I wanna go to Shmoozefest, Suze! I wanna go to Shmoozefest, Suze!

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