Comments on: The Art of Saying No http://www.suzemuse.com/2008/12/the-art-of-saying-no/ Fri, 10 Feb 2012 01:12:56 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: SuzeMuse » The Art of Saying Yes http://www.suzemuse.com/2008/12/the-art-of-saying-no/comment-page-1/#comment-479 SuzeMuse » The Art of Saying Yes Fri, 30 Jan 2009 21:19:17 +0000 http://suzemuse.wordpress.com/?p=599#comment-479 [...] in December I wrote a post on The Art of Saying No. It was in response to an overwhelming number of demands and requests I’d been receiving for [...] [...] in December I wrote a post on The Art of Saying No. It was in response to an overwhelming number of demands and requests I’d been receiving for [...]

]]> By: Jared Goralnick http://www.suzemuse.com/2008/12/the-art-of-saying-no/comment-page-1/#comment-478 Jared Goralnick Tue, 02 Dec 2008 20:01:41 +0000 http://suzemuse.wordpress.com/?p=599#comment-478 I agree with you on the difficulty of saying "no" or even "please wait." Gary is an almost-master at this: he always responds, which is in some ways superhuman. I mean, I wouldn't wish Gary's time commitments on anyone, but that's what makes him the inimitable GaryV! As for his inbox message (which I, too, have gotten many times), I really like his idea. I love how he puts a human face on a very human and understandable situation...but it's also a very Gary solution to a very Gary problem. In other words, I wouldn't want to spend a few minutes watching a video after I email just-anyone, but with Gary things are always a little different ;-). Just something to bear in mind, but I'm very impressed with how well he's pulled it off, though I think someday he'll have to actually say "No" to more things. And I think we all need to. Fortunately, as you mention, there's delegating. And there's also scheduling 15 minute phone calls instead of lunches and all sorts of other little hacks for being responsive without being too available. Good luck on finding that balance! Cheers, Jared from AwayFind I agree with you on the difficulty of saying “no” or even “please wait.” Gary is an almost-master at this: he always responds, which is in some ways superhuman. I mean, I wouldn’t wish Gary’s time commitments on anyone, but that’s what makes him the inimitable GaryV!

As for his inbox message (which I, too, have gotten many times), I really like his idea. I love how he puts a human face on a very human and understandable situation…but it’s also a very Gary solution to a very Gary problem. In other words, I wouldn’t want to spend a few minutes watching a video after I email just-anyone, but with Gary things are always a little different ;-).

Just something to bear in mind, but I’m very impressed with how well he’s pulled it off, though I think someday he’ll have to actually say “No” to more things. And I think we all need to.

Fortunately, as you mention, there’s delegating. And there’s also scheduling 15 minute phone calls instead of lunches and all sorts of other little hacks for being responsive without being too available. Good luck on finding that balance!

Cheers,
Jared from AwayFind

]]> By: suzemuse http://www.suzemuse.com/2008/12/the-art-of-saying-no/comment-page-1/#comment-477 suzemuse Tue, 02 Dec 2008 19:17:18 +0000 http://suzemuse.wordpress.com/?p=599#comment-477 @Robert. Perhaps "no" is an incorrect term - sometimes it sounds harsh (and that is part of the problem). Gary always responds to my emails too and I know this is most people's experience. Perhaps what he is saying is "not right now", and that's okay with me. @Robert. Perhaps “no” is an incorrect term – sometimes it sounds harsh (and that is part of the problem). Gary always responds to my emails too and I know this is most people’s experience. Perhaps what he is saying is “not right now”, and that’s okay with me.

]]> By: Rob Gokee http://www.suzemuse.com/2008/12/the-art-of-saying-no/comment-page-1/#comment-476 Rob Gokee Tue, 02 Dec 2008 18:55:54 +0000 http://suzemuse.wordpress.com/?p=599#comment-476 I agree with you, Suze, I have a hard time with no. There are time when I too am asked to do things out of my parameters, and every time I say no there's a little voice in the back my head whispering, "What if that was the thing the becomes huge, and you just passed it up?" I agree with you, Suze, I have a hard time with no. There are time when I too am asked to do things out of my parameters, and every time I say no there’s a little voice in the back my head whispering, “What if that was the thing the becomes huge, and you just passed it up?”

]]> By: Robert Howells http://www.suzemuse.com/2008/12/the-art-of-saying-no/comment-page-1/#comment-475 Robert Howells Tue, 02 Dec 2008 18:47:57 +0000 http://suzemuse.wordpress.com/?p=599#comment-475 Gary is not saying no, he actually does get back to your email, but it takes him a bit longer. When I first emailed Gary a few years ago he responded ASAP. Now that Gary is an internet celebrity it takes him longer to respond but he always replies and that is alright with me. Gary is not saying no, he actually does get back to your email, but it takes him a bit longer. When I first emailed Gary a few years ago he responded ASAP. Now that Gary is an internet celebrity it takes him longer to respond but he always replies and that is alright with me.

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